Rob passed away on Saturday afternoon around 5.20pm.
We're all still in shock.
While the prognosis was never what we wanted to hear and wasn't good we still thought he would be around for a bit longer. As late as Friday he was sitting out in the sun at the hospice chatting to visitors. But he took a turn for the worse late Friday night and passed away Saturday afternoon.
Ken and I arrived in Canberra around 11.30pm Friday night and stayed with Ken's mum, not knowing that Rob's condition had worsened. The kids stayed behind with my parents. Ken rang Lyn first thing Saturday and her sister answered and said that the family had been called together and that we should get to the hospice as soon as possible.
Saturday was a big day. A rollercoaster of emotion. And very confronting.
The hospice was as lovely a place as it could be given that it was a hospice. It overlooked the lake and was serene and peaceful with a beautiful outlook. The nursing staff were lovely and so kind. Rob was surrounded by Lyn and her family and their three children plus his brothers, sisters and their partners and kids. And Rob's dad.
Plus me and Ken. It was a privlege for both of us to be there as the only non family members that day and take it in turn to hold Rob's hands and experience the sadness as well as share in the memories and chatting. I was worried we were imposing but Lyn assured me that she wanted us there and that Ken and Rob had been friends for a looong time and he should be there.
Rob didn't regain consciousness throughout the day but the nurses assured us he could hear so everyone made sure they chatted to him and told him who was in the room etc. We left later in the afternoon to head back to Ken's mums for something to eat with the intention of returning as soon as we could. We weren't home long when Rob's brother rang my mobile to tell us that Rob has just passed away. So we headed back to the hospice to be with everyone again and say a final goodbye to Rob.
With that room full of people there ALL day, Rob waited until just Lyn and his sister Helen were in the room with him and I truly believe that was exactly how it was meant to be. It was ironic that we all dispersed at the same time for various reasons, leaving only Lyn and Helen there. ALL day there had never been just two people in the room.
We will head back to Canberra Wednesday night for the funeral on Thursday.
The weekend didn't feel real. There were lots of tears but it still didn't feel real. And in fact today I thought I would be ok but I'm not. I think we all ran on adrenaline over the weekend and the reality of it all is starting to impact. Today is an emotional and fragile day so I am lying low.
There's so much more to say but it's all still a bit early and the emotion is still too overwhelming. This photo is our last one all together - both families. Taken in January at our place. It's a cruel reminder of how life can twist so dramatically in a few short months. And I am GLAD i forced everyone to have this photo taken despite protests! I am so GLAD I worked out the timer on my camera so we could ALL be in it.
And this photo is how I will remember Rob. That was a FUN weekend. And in trying to get the above family photo and work out the timer, Rob and I were working out if the camera was aimed at the right place. So we did a test photo. And I am so glad I didn't delete this goofy shot of us.
We love you Rob.